Power

I've had this debate many times with friends about who ultimately has more power...men?...or women?....I stand by women....and so do some prominent other intelligent men...

“It’s not money, it’s not politics - it’s who controls the pussy that controls the world.”
Larry Flynt
Publisher

The starting point for defining the behavior of men and women is all about power. Who has more? Men or Women? The answer depends a lot on who you ask and what they think power means. Power is everything. If you have the power, you have control, in any situation. Money, political clout and authority are the most common tools used to wield or display power, but certainly not the most influential or effective. I have this conversation many times over with a number of friends and when I ask them about power, more often than not, they bring up the fore mentioned tools. The reality is sex is the ultimate power.

How else can you explain how a young, mostly unattractive, overweight Intern virtually brought down the “most powerful man in the world” over a simple blowjob? In fact, you could argue that one man’s salacious desire for some head changed the course of American history forever.

So a better question maybe to ask, who controls sex?

Most men will adamantly tell you they’re in charge. Maybe once engaged in sex, a man will dominate and demonstrate his power, but to begin with, legally anyway, a woman must give consent, otherwise its called rape. Man wants what only the woman can give. A woman can have sex any time she wants to. All she has to do is ask. But a man…well, for us, sex isn’t quite available on demand like Entourage reruns. Well, I guess if you’re willing to pay for it is…but even then, who really holds the power? The one who holds the money or the pussy? Next time you’re with a hooker…or in a strip club, ask the girl who she thinks has the power.

A beautiful woman can stroll past a man on the street and bring him to his knees. I don’t hear woman honking their horns as they drive by a crowded corner of handsome men. Women will argue they’re much less crass and animalistic than men to do something as abhorring as honk a horn. “What’s the big deal?” they’ll ask. That’s what they say to us when we do such a thing. One woman I know once remarked, ‘What do you think? She’s going to come right over and fuck you?” Well…no…we don’t think that would ever happen, but we do hope it might. And that’s the difference between us. An attractive woman is a big deal…a much bigger deal than any woman will ever understand or care to imagine.

The big deal contributes to our lack of control over sex. We can’t help ourselves. Women make men weak. More often than not, we’ll do anything for sex. Romance, food shopping, fancy cars, trips to Bed Bath and Beyond on a Sunday (as in Sunday…the day of Football) and spending money….yes….believe it or not…we spend money to impress you in the hopes you will have sex with us. Virtually every activity we do is built around the possibility of sex. Careers are built around getting girls. Musicians like Billy Joel, Jimmy Buffett and Tommy Lee have all admitted they first became musicians because thy thought it would help them get girls. Doctors, Athletes, Lawyers …the ladies are all impressed. It’s sad. It’s pathetic. It’s also out of our control.

Who thinks they have the power?

However, the psychology behind the power play appears to be much different. Men think they have the power, while most women can’t believe they actually hold the keys to the power drill….strippers and hookers aside…who you could argue are the ultimate power players. If the rest of the women ever fully realize their potential, we’re doomed as the ones in charge. Speaking of which, Scott Baio, formerly of the hit show Charles in Charge and that lesser known one, Happy Days, who’s since bragged about going through one year sleeping with every Playmate on the calendar…He didn’t just go for the cycle. He went for the lunar cycle…twelve for twelve….is a believer in the women have all the power theory. In fact, he’s adamant about it. Don’t believe me? Look it up in a past Playboy. I swear. I read the article.

The Idolatry of Solomon

So there was this King and his name was Solomon…King Solomon….you’ve heard of him. Worshipped by many, he had all kinds of power, and was …idolized if you will. And someone made this painting of him appropriately called the “Idolatry of Solomon” that became famous. I saw it at the Getty Museum in Los Angeles. It’s a highly respected piece of art. While the painting reflects Solomon’s great power it also displays his penchant and dare I say…weakness…for…you guessed it…women. His advisers clearly seem to be suggesting the King steer clear of these particular women. But the King didn’t listen. When it comes to women, men won’t listen to anyone but themselves. On the other hand, women tend to be all too eager to heed the advice and thoughts of others when it comes to men…but I’ll save that discussion for another chapter. For a man, it doesn’t matter how powerful a figure he’s appear to be, once a woman takes a hold of his heart, he’s silly-puddy in her hands.*

*This thought is only based upon my observations, not my experience. I’ve never felt like I was puddy in anybody’s hands. Of course, that’s what all guys would say about themselves. There’s actually a specific term for “silly-puddy in her hands.” It’s called being pussy-wipped. And what guy wants to admit he is pussy-wipped? Answer: None. Quick, what’s the female equivalent for pussy wipped?.......tick-tock….tick-tock…can’t think of one? That’s because there is none. Women have all the power. I rest my case.

Power…it’s a losing battle.

I wish I could take credit for the following quote, but sadly I cannot. It’s pure genius and comes from a friend of mine. When prompted for his thoughts on the power subject, he did not hesitate. It’s like he had his statement well prepared in advance if ever someone should ask him such a question.

“Women are the employer and men are the employee. A date is like a job interview and the woman is the one who decides whether to hire you or fire you. And just like a job interview, you have no idea what they’re thinking on the other side of the table. You think you have some idea what they’re looking for in an applicant, but really you have no idea.”

When it comes to jobs and women I’ve been on a lot of interviews…some interviews were for positions that most people would be thrilled that they were even considered…I’ll never forget one position I was up for…for a job…when I asked why I didn’t get it, I was told, “When you left the room, there wasn’t exactly a standing ovation.” Ouch. Sometimes you can walk away thinking you nailed it….be it an interview or an incredible date…and then…nothing...and the hardest part is you have no idea why. The why eats away at us like termites invading a house. Only time and toxins can stop the devastation.....for all intensive purposes....we are powerless.